Marriage FAQs


  1. What is the Pre-Marital Seminar?

    The seminar is a one-day, six-hour course which discusses the meaning and purpose of marriage, the qualities necessary to have a healthy marriage, the true nature of love and how to effectively express it, communication and conflict resolution, role relationships and sexuality in marriage. It involves lectures and one-on-one interactions.


  2. How do I get counseling if I'm getting married at another church?

    Please contact Redeemer Counseling Services for pre-marital counseling services.


  3. How much will it cost to get married by a Redeemer pastor?

    While there is no standard fee for performing a wedding ceremony, the suggested and customary honorarium for the minister performing your ceremony is between $500 and $1000 (depending on the number of counseling sessions that he provides). This is paid directly to the minister.


  4. When should I contact a pastor to officiate at my wedding?

    Generally, you should contact a Redeemer pastor six months prior to the wedding date. If you are not able to contact the pastor six months in advance of the ceremony, accommodations may be made, depending on the pastor's schedule. Please download the Guidelines for Marriage Ceremonies for details.


  5. What other counseling options are available if I'm not engaged yet, but am currently in a relationship?

    Redeemer Counseling Services provides a wide variety of counseling services including individual, relationship and pre-marital counseling. For more information about their services, please visit the Counseling Services pages.


  6. What if I'm getting married out-of-state by a non-Redeemer pastor?

    We highly recommend attending the Redeemer Pre-Marital Seminar and/or pursuing counseling at Redeemer Counseling Services.


  7. Is the Redeemer Premarital Seminar considered premarital counseling?

    The Redeemer Premarital Seminar is NOT premarital counseling. While the issues presented and discussed during the seminar are important and helpful for couples considering or preparing for marriage, they are simply a starting point. We recommend that couples meet with a counselor or pastor for more individualized counseling after attending the seminar.


  8. What if my pastor or church requires premarital counseling? Does the Redeemer Premarital Seminar qualify?

    The Redeemer Premarital Seminar is a class and is not counseling. We recommend that couples meet with their pastor or contact Redeemer Counseling Services for premarital counseling.